(Don’t worry – it’s effortless!)
First and foremost, keep your focus on yourself. Remember that your life is all about you. Take great pride and pleasure in how good and caring and capable you are, especially compared to others. Cling firmly to the belief that God is always there to serve you and to make you even more special than you are today!
(If you tend to see yourself as a total loser, an utter failure and completely worthless – you’re way ahead of the rest! Spend all your time dwelling on how weak and sinful you are and you are certain to become trapped in hopelessness and despair. Then you will have a perfect excuse not to exert yourself or take any responsibility for your choices. Woo-hoo!)
Stay very tuned into your feelings and allow them to dictate everything that you say and do. Your emotions are a completely trustworthy indicator of what is true about you, God and your circumstances. Never examine them too closely. If you can’t trust what you feel, what can you trust?
Set your priorities based on what you believe will bring you the utmost comfort, security and pleasure in the short-term. Heaven can wait! Why bother to think about eternal realities when God has blessed you with so much to enjoy right now here on earth? Besides, God loves you too much to want you to experience anything painful or difficult.
Concentrate on looking good on the outside since this is what others will see and applaud. Then you’ll feel proud and your self-confidence will remain high! Don’t miss an opportunity to show off or brag, just in case people have not noticed or fully appreciated all that you have done and how much you have given.
Don’t bother to cultivate a thankful heart or to actually express gratitude to God (unless others are listening). Clearly, He is only taking care of you as He should. If difficulties come or your needs are not met to your satisfaction, let God know immediately that He has failed you. Keep complaining until things change.
You can rack up tons of brownie points by reading your Bible every morning, but don’t take it too seriously. After all, those words were written a long time ago to people in a completely different culture! They can’t possibly apply to you or your life.
If you have already been persuaded that the Bible is true, make sure that you don’t believe it is true for you or about you. Keep your Bible-reading a purely academic exercise. Concentrate on the passages that emphasize God‘s love and grace, and just ignore the parts that describe His holiness and judgment. (Those are obviously for other people.)
Let’s face it, prayer can feel really hard. It is best to hold off doing it until you are in the right frame of mind and full of spiritual fervor. Count on those “911” prayers for times when you face a real crisis - or if you are running late and need a good parking spot. God is too awesome to be bothered with the little details of your life, and your “to do” list is too long to waste valuable time in prayer, accomplishing nothing. If you still feel uneasy about failing to pray, try to remember that God is GOD. He is going to do whatever He wants to do anyway.
As far as confession of sin goes, being honest about your “mistakes” can make you feel really bad about yourself. So if a guilty conscience bothers you, keep in mind that Jesus already knows about what you’ve done. There is no need to bore Him with all the gory details! You’re covered, right? The fact that you feel sorry is sufficient. Just make yourself a promise to try to do better in the future.
Maintain a proper view of other people. They exist for your benefit. If others treat you in a way that is upsetting or disappointing, let them know immediately that this is unacceptable. Set the bar of expectation high and don’t settle for less. Withhold forgiveness until the offending party has proven how truly sorry they are and made it up to you. Employ whatever forms of manipulation and control may be necessary to get your own needs met.
Never risk doing anything for God that you are not certain you can do to His high standards. The last thing you want is to have a big, fat failure on your otherwise perfect record! Success is what gets you those gold stars, right? If you happen to blow it in this area and fail, wallow for a good, long time in humiliation and self-pity. This will keep you from making a similar error in the future. Better yet, blame on God for making you weak and inadequate.
It is almost impossible to say enough about the power of distraction to keep you from obsessing about your current spiritual condition. Work, exercise, TV, movies, video games, sports, shopping, hobbies, social media, food and alcohol are a few obvious ways to keep your mind off your relationship with God. Whatever you do, avoid quiet and solitude. Either one will leave you wide open to hearing His “still, small voice.”
Following any one of these suggestions will have the effect of dousing your joy, robbing you of peace and snuffing out the light of Christ in your life. Obviously, the more of them you can implement, the more perfectly miserable you will become.
Trust me, I know. I’ve tried them all.